Love, Sex & Healthy Relationships Network

By: Michele R. Hughes

What is a consistent individual? In my opinion, it is a person who lives their life in an orderly manner. Is your life organized and disciplined? What motivates you to do better? Do you realize you have talents and dreams that are within you, but are not being utilized; due to you not having an organized and orderly lifestyle? This dysfunction is causing you to not reach your potential in life. Do you have desires to become a consistent person? Well, this is a start in the right direction.

Do not fret to long, because I had to analyze my own life? This is why I am asking you to ask yourself some questions concerning being a consistent individual. Here are eight categories with questions to ponder, they are not hard, just everyday routines that we sometimes take for granted, for instance:

o Are you on time for meetings, events, church services, dinner parties, doctor appointments, etc.?

o Are you a dependable person, if someone solicits your help? Do you volunteer your services?

o Are you a faithful marriage partner to your spouse?

o Do you overeat? Do you have a drinking or drug problem? Do you have to be in charge? Are you

into titles? Do you budget your finances?

o Are you a compulsive liar? Do you give compliments? Do you relax? Are you a peaceful person?

Do you critcize people?

o Are you loyal and committed to your family, mother, father, sister, brother, aunts, uncles, and

cousins, etc.

o What are your best qualities? Are you an envious person?

o Would you want to be your friend?

The reason these questions are being addressed is because people including myself do not see these areas being talked about as urgent needs, so we tend to take these areas for granted. It is time we begin to become consistent in all facets of our life. If you can answer yes in all or most of the questions proposed, you are a very consistent individual, and. please keep up the good work. If you answered yes to only one or two of the above questions; then you are a candidate who probably should work on improving certain areas of your life. Do not feel bad just work on improving your life.

Are you asking yourself, how are these questions considering whether an individual is a consistent or inconsistent individual? Well, they are not, because these are just helpful questions to help you pin point areas of inconsistency. We could have listed more questions, but we only listed eight categories that are personal and intimate. You can list more questions about yourself. The whole point of this article is to bring out how we take people we care about and ourselves for granted. And in the end we are building relationships that are very inconsistent.

Remember, if you are married take an inventory check on are you being faithful to your marriage vows? Any single that is in a relationship should ask the following questions. Are you honoring the wishes asked of you by your mate? Are you overeating, but continuing to complain about your clothes not fitting? Are you always on probation at work due to late attendance? Do you find yourself being envious of others accomplishments, but will not challenge yourself? What kind of relationship do you have with your family members; do you call them regularly or visit them? You see the list can go on and on.

The whole purpose of acknowledging people who are very consistent and those who are inconsistent is to point out how we are not perfect. We have too many people in relationships that are living very inconsistent lives. And who are not aware of how it is hurting the other individuals; who are trying to work on keeping a lasting relationship.

In no way are we addressing this topic to say that the consistent people are better then the inconsistent person. The main objective is to pin point when we are being inconsistent and consistent in a relationship. There are times that the roles will reverse in different situations.

Meaning the inconsistent person will find that they are more consistent in some areas, and vice versus. We are stating this point to make each person aware of how they are handling themselves in their relationship. We are aiming for each person to live a consistent and balanced life in their relationships.

Being consistent acknowledges you as a very dependable person, a person of character, and a person who respects themselves and others. Your words when spoken are valued, trusted and respected.

This is a place of high esteem, living as a consistent individual. We all should want to be or become a person that is valued for how they treat themselves, family, friends, associates or co-workers.

Let this article provoke every reader to live higher standards in their everyday life. Let us also challenge ourselves to live consistent lifestyles. May we always enjoy life consistently!